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But how are you *really* doing?

4/8/2020

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For many of us, we're well into week three or four of social distancing and sheltering-in-place.

So we've got this whole thing down pretty well by now, and our emotions aren't quite as scattered or intense, right? NOT NECESSARILY!

Here's the thing you really need to hear:  All of your feelings are normal!  

There are so many changes happening on a weekly (or daily) basis, that our feelings are likely going to go through phases.​ Unfortunately, there's no specific road map when it comes to feelings, especially those of grief. 
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Image credit unknown; based on work from David Kessler
STAGES OF GRIEF:
​The image above helps illustrate how our emotions might ebb and flow through this COVID pandemic. David Kessler, a grief expert who co-authored books with fellow grief expert Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, recently explored the feelings of grief we can expect to feel during the COVID-19 pandemic. In this Harvard Business Review interview, Kessler explored anticipatory grief and anxiety, and the importance of remembering that people don't move through the stages of grief in a linear manner.

What does that mean? Simply put, we can move through these stages, and suddenly find ourselves back at a previous stage. While making your way to acceptance is the ideal goal, that timeline will look different for everyone.

You may feel mentally stronger one day than the next. One week you may feel more motivated than you did the previous week. Recognize that this is normal and expected given the current circumstances, and be more patient and compassionate with yourself and others as we navigate these new, ever-changing waters. 
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BUT HOW ARE YOU *REALLY* DOING? 
Sure, it's important to gain an understanding of expected emotional responses during times of crisis. But do you know what else is important?

Just checking in with one another and genuinely asking: HOW ARE YOU DOING?

So here goes.....
  • To those that are parents: How are your nerves holding up? Are you giving yourself some extra grace right now?
  • To the medical/healthcare providers: I see you, and I thank you! I know you’re being strong, but how are you really feeling? It’s okay to not be a strong rock at all times. So what are you doing for yourself and your wellness right now? How are you coping?
  • To those that are sheltering-in-place alone: How are you staying connected with others? Truly, what are you feeling these days? What do you need more of to comfort you right now?
  • To my mental health and counseling peers: How are you holding up? And don’t feel you have to give a “therapized” answer! Have you found it hard holding others’ emotions while navigating the same situation/feelings? What are you doing for your own well-being right now? 

Taking the time to reach out to those in your world to see how they are holding up - just a bit of time to focus on others - can be a great way to step out of your own overwhelming emotions for a bit, too. Just be a listener, a supporter, and an empathetic ear to someone you think might need it most right now.

HELPFUL FA COMMUNITY COVID-19 RESOURCES:
  • How Food Allergy Families Can Manage COVID-19 Stress (Allergic Living Podcast)
  • Resources for Navigating Coronavirus Anxiety & Stress (FAC; updated weekly)
  • COVID-19: Helping Your Children with School (Former educator, Sharon Wong)
  • COVID-19 & Allergies Resource Hub (Allergic Living)
  • CFAAR / SOAAR's COVID-19 Resources (Center for FA & Asthma Research)
  • Coronavirus: What People w/Asthma Need to Know (AAFA)
  • Eczema, Handwashing & COVID-19: Protecting Yourself & Your Skin (AAFA)
  • Gratefulfoodie's COVID-19 Resource List
  • Food Allergy Assistance Community: Tackling COVID-19 (FB support group)

And Just Because These Reminders Might Be Helpful.... 
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